HOW TRAUMA CAN BE A SETUP FOR STRUGGLES WITH TRUST
Were you betrayed by those you trusted most?
We are most helpless and vulnerable as infants and children as well as completely dependent on our caregivers for support and nurturance. We are in essence “little hostages” as we have nowhere to run and nowhere to hide and “no voice”. If we are in a family where our caregivers are emotionally and spiritually attuned to our needs then we have received the foundational building blocks for trust. in relationships and to know what it is like to feel safe. When we are loved and nurtured than we experience that we can let others be close to us as they can be trusted and that we are “safe’ and “lovable”. However if you were not nurtured and given the attention and time, and love that is so essential in order to develop a “secure attachment relationship” then you may very likely have difficulties knowing and believing you are lovable and difficulties assessing who is “safe and trustworthy as well as doubt yourself”. As an effect of early trauma you may now have developed a pattern where you have experienced painful relationships with those closest to you and who did not “deserve your trust as it was familiar but not healthy and now you are “reinjured” See “Ways To Recognize That You Do Not Value Yourself”
TRUST IS TO BE “EARNED” AND TAKES TIME(“IT IS A PROCESS” NOT “QUICK FIX” FOR THE WISE WOMAN
Feeling good with someone does not mean that they are worthy of your trust. If you are in a lonely and needy place you may give your gift of trust to someone who does not earn it or deserve it. Take your time as you may have heard “fools rush in” and this is so important(Especially as a trauma survivor that needs to heal) as you learn to set boundaries and limits and understand that “everything is not for everybody” It is essential that you learn how to “discern” who you can trust and therapy can be extremely beneficial so that you develop discernment and make wise choices in the future! See It Is Time To Start Mending Your Broken Heart
THERAPY WITH “THE RIGHT THERAPIST” CAN HELP YOU TO HEAL AND BE ABLE TO “TRUST”
The main foundation of therapy is the collaborative relationship we will develop over time that will help you to heal from your past wounds. You can begin to become more self aware as well as learn how to “discern'“ whether or not it is “safe” for you to trust and to forgive yourself for your past lack of “discernment” as was not your fault! . I would be honored to walk alongside of you on this amazing transformative healing journey so please give me a call so we can get started!