Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT IS THE ROOT OF ...

When we are emotionally neglected as children our nervous system does the best it can to go into survival mode in an atttempt to protect us ... Since we are completely dependent and vulnerable and unable to “fight or flee” so we go into“freeze” response where we are numb and emotionally shut down in an attempt to not feel our fear and our pain. When no one hears or listens to our “cry” we lose hope as our emotional needs are not noticed or given attention and we feel like we do not exist..Over time our “little child” part gets more frozen and “stuck” and has difficulty moving forward and begins to internalize the emotional neglect and we as adults then begin to neglect ourselves emotionally and due to lack of hope and feelings of helplessness develop a pattern of procrastination and the root is “childhood emotional neglect”.

CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT IS THE ROOT OF PROCRASTINATION
Bilingual Relationship Therapy, Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
HOW TO IDENTIFY EMOTIONAL NEEDINESS

When we were the most vulnerable and dependent and “emotionally needy(”as we all have been as children )it can feel like a cry deep in our soul when no one hears or seems to care about us. Our mind, will and emotions are what define our soul. For many of us who have been “ traumatically wounded” in childhood: the message we received was that we will not have our emotional reality nurtured or have anyone who can help us to process our emotions in a” healthy” way. You may be becoming more and more aware and of the consequences that are affecting your self-esteem and your relationships as the“little boy or girl part” got stuck in a pattern of “emotional neediness” that needs to be healed so you can move on with hope and start to. understand what is going on inside of you emotionally physically: and spiritually. You may have stuffed your emotions and are now becoming more aware of the consequences related to your childhood trauma.

HOW TO IDENTIFY EMOTIONAL NEEDINESS
Bilingual Relationship Therapy, Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE

The way that we learn to connect with others in our relationships is called “attachment style” .Our parents and caregivers play a crucial role i the style of “attachment'‘ we develop.. When as children those adults who are closest are unable to nurture us and be responsive to our needs then in order to survive we often “shut down” emotionally. An“avoidant attachment style” develops as a survival response to fear,, anxiety and feelings of rejection and abandonment.as there is a lack of a secure connection and trust.

HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE
Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
HOW TO STOP BEING A DOORMAT

Doormats are exploited and dumped on. Doormats are used and often abused. Doormats do not have a voice. Before you can stop being a doormat it is essential that you actually begin to identify and see what the qualities of a doormat are. You may have been well-trained since early childhood to stuff your feelings and your voice and to be a “people pleaser”. and now you feeling depleted and believe the lie that you are powerless.

HOW TO STOP BEING A DOORMAT
Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
ADULT WOUNDS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

Childhood sexual abuse creates a deep wound in the soul. As a child you are vulnerable and dependent on adults that are supposed to be there to love and protect you but have failed you. Most childhood sexual abuse happens in families and the perpetrator is often someone you trusted and yet they were not worthy of your trust. And though there were many signs when you were being abused that “something was wrong” no one even noticed. Not being noticed caused even more confusion and pain about your own value as no one heard your “cry” but that “cry” is still inside although muffled over time.

ADULT WOUNDS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

Bilingual Anxiety Therapy

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KEYS TO STOP ALLOWING FEAR TO BE YOUR PROPHET

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KEYS TO STOP ALLOWING FEAR TO BE YOUR PROPHET

Healing can only take place when we are calm. Fearful thoughts block the healing process and nurture feelings of anxiety as you most likely can notice by now.. It is like eating toxic food that cannot nourish you in any way but actually hurts you and makes you feel sick.. What you think and what you say make a great difference to your overall mental health and state of mind. So what are you feasting these on days is my question to you: is it gloom and doom, toxic relationships, catastrophizing, making mountains out of molehills, bad news reports online and on TV? Are you murmuring and complaining and wondering why you feel so alone and disconnected from yourself and others? Help and hope are on the way so do not give up!

STOP MAKING PEACE WITH POWERLESSNESS

STOP MAKING PEACE WITH POWERLESSNESS

Do you find it difficult to assert yourself as you fear that you will be misunderstood or rejected? Do you fear conflict and do whatever you can to avoid having to address issues? Do you believe that “your voice” will not have any influence so why bother to speak? Do you have difficulties setting boundaries and limits in relationships as you fear how others will react?

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HOW TO REMOVE THE WALL AROUND YOUR HEART

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HOW TO REMOVE THE WALL AROUND YOUR HEART

Have you noticed that in your attempt to protect yourself from pain (caused by others)that now you feel even more “shutdown” and “frozen”? You have created your own prison and closed the door to your heart. The wall that you created to “protect Have you noticed that in your attempt to protect yourself from pain (caused by others)that now you feel even more “shutdown” and “frozen”? You have created your own prison and closed the door to your heart. The wall that you created to “protect you” is now hurting you as you are now closed off from “giving and receiving love”? you” is now hurting you as you are now closed off from “giving and receiving love”?

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KEYS TO MENDING FOR YOUR BROKEN HEART

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KEYS TO MENDING FOR YOUR BROKEN HEART

There have been so many loses on so many different levels during this pandemic that so many are walking around with a broken heart. You may be trying to cope the best way you can and are depressed and broken hearted. You may be dealing with a recent loss(caused by tragedy, illness or a breakup) or maybe you have never addressed losses and past deep disappointments and now during this season everything is coming more to the surface..

STEPS TO STAYING CALM WHEN STRESSED

STEPS TO STAYING CALM WHEN STRESSED

It is so important that no matter what circumstances you are in that being able to stay calm will help you to focus and have more clarity and energy as well as make better choices . .When you find yourself having trouble staying calm and frequently feeling stressed in a medley of circumstances and situations then it may be the time to no longer avoid but to begin to understand and to change this pattern from the inside out.