When we do not feel safe as children, we adapt to survive, however, we become disconnected with our authentic self. As adults, this affects our relationship with ourselves and with others. We can become connected with our bodies and our emotions as we begin to seek healing and do not have to stay stuck in the effects of relationship trauma of the past. Important to notice signs of disconnection from yourself.
You may have broken ties or moved far away, but the ache of that parental bond still lives inside. There’s a way to heal what they could never give — by discovering who you truly are, beneath the trauma.
.When your emotional needs were overlooked as a child, you may have learned to doubt yourself, avoid mistakes at all costs, or freeze in fear of disapproval. This kind of emotional neglect often shows up later in life as procrastination, perfectionism, and self-criticism. In this post, I explore how emotional neglect and procrastination are connected — and how healing begins when you learn to honor your feelings and trust yourself again.
When your emotional needs were ignored or dismissed growing up, you may find yourself feeling “too much” in relationships — always longing for reassurance and connection. In this post, I explore how childhood neglect can lead to emotional neediness in adulthood, and how therapy can help you heal and feel secure in yourself and your relationships.
The way that we learn to connect with others in our relationships is called “attachment style” .Our parents and caregivers play a crucial role i the style of “attachment'‘ we develop.. When as children those adults who are closest are unable to nurture us and be responsive to our needs then in order to survive we often “shut down” emotionally. An“avoidant attachment style” develops as a survival response to fear,, anxiety and feelings of rejection and abandonment.as there is a lack of a secure connection and trust.
Trauma often lives in your body and nervous system, showing up as intense reactions to seemingly small moments. These triggers can leave you feeling confused, overwhelmed, or ashamed of your response. In this post, I share how to begin recognizing your trauma triggers, why they happen, and how therapy can help you respond with more compassion and calm.
Are you starting to see and no longer deny and avoid the effects of your unhealed wounds in your relationship with yourself and those close to you? Have you been experiencing pain in your body as your memories and emotions are more difficult now for you to stuff and avoid your pain? Are you feeling overwhelmed and “stuck” by your woundedness and having difficulty moving forward? Are you starting to understand how essential it is for you to address your pain and no longer neglect yourself so that you can begin to heal?
Are you continually finding yourself struggling with trust issues? Do you find it difficult to know who you can trust and who is not trustworthy? Do you often make choices of letting people in that hurt you and cause you to doubt yourself rather then having healthy relationships with people that support you and encourage as well as challenge you to grow? Do you struggle with trusting yourself and your own impressions and perceptions? Do you expect to be rejected and betrayed rather than honored and loved?
Pandemic has been so stressful for so many of us and for others it has been traumatic. You may already have had a history of trauma as a child or adult and this difficult stressful time has been a “reinjury” ” Now that there is more movement forward in this pandemic situation you may have become even more aware of how this has effected you both inside and out as well as you may be longing to begin another level of moving forward with HOPE and to gain understanding of how your history of trauma has effected you and that you need to take time to HEAL but are not sure how to go about that.
When you are a daughter :a precious little girl who has been abused by your father who was the one who was suppose to protect you and love you and reflect that you are valuable then the traumatic effects of this deep betrayal can take on a life of its own.. If you have been sexually, physically, or emotionally abused by a toxic father then this “trauma” has greatly wounded your mind/body and spirit as you have very likely internalized and minimized what has happened as you have been overcome with shame and blaming yourself,. You also very likely have had to adjust in order “to survive” and are continuing to “adjust” and as a result have not been able to move on to “healing”. But now you are beginning to know it is time to address what happened to you so that the effects of your “trauma” no longer have to run or “ruin your life”!
Have you noticed that in your attempt to protect yourself from pain (caused by others)that now you feel even more “shutdown” and “frozen”? You have created your own prison and closed the door to your heart. The wall that you created to “protect Have you noticed that in your attempt to protect yourself from pain (caused by others)that now you feel even more “shutdown” and “frozen”? You have created your own prison and closed the door to your heart. The wall that you created to “protect you” is now hurting you as you are now closed off from “giving and receiving love”? you” is now hurting you as you are now closed off from “giving and receiving love”?
As a trauma survivor it is so important to begin to feel safe in your body as when you experience trauma: which is anything so overwhelming that at the moment it is too frightening to process then the nervous system is holding the memories and feelings you could not process.. In an effort to protect yourself from feeling you may be in a shutdown or “frozen” state which makes it difficult for you to heal and become fully alive and safe in your body.
