Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
FROM FEAR TO FREEDOM:HEALING PARENTAL TRAUMA ...

Trauma bonds can be extremely challenging to navigate as this bonding touches our deepest wounds. The intertwining between love and fear that began when we had no defenses to protect ourselves needs time and attention to heal. As we connect the dots and give and receive the attention and care we need: we are beginning the healing process to move into freedom and come out of bondage!

FROM FEAR TO FREEDOM:HEALING PARENTAL TRAUMA BONDS
Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AND PROCRASTINATION

When we are emotionally neglected as children our nervous system does the best it can to go into survival mode in an atttempt to protect us ... Since we are completely dependent and vulnerable and unable to “fight or flee” so we go into“freeze” response where we are numb and emotionally shut down in an attempt to not feel our fear and our pain. When no one hears or listens to our “cry” we lose hope as our emotional needs are not noticed or given attention and we feel like we do not exist..Over time our “little child” part gets more frozen and “stuck” and has difficulty moving forward and begins to internalize the emotional neglect and we as adults then begin to neglect ourselves emotionally and due to lack of hope and feelings of helplessness develop a pattern of procrastination and the root is “childhood emotional neglect”.

EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AND PROCRASTINATION
Bilingual Relationship Therapy, Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
NEGLECT AND EMOTIONAL NEEDINESS

When we were the most vulnerable and dependent and “emotionally needy(”as we all have been as children )it can feel like a cry deep in our soul when no one hears or seems to care about us. Our mind, will and emotions are what define our soul. For many of us who have been “ traumatically wounded” in childhood: the message we received was that we will not have our emotional reality nurtured or have anyone who can help us to process our emotions in a” healthy” way. You may be becoming more and more aware and of the consequences that are affecting your self-esteem and your relationships as the“little boy or girl part” got stuck in a pattern of “emotional neediness” that needs to be healed so you can move on with hope and start to. understand what is going on inside of you emotionally physically: and spiritually. You may have stuffed your emotions and are now becoming more aware of the consequences related to your childhood trauma.

NEGLECT AND EMOTIONAL NEEDINESS
Bilingual Relationship Therapy, Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE

The way that we learn to connect with others in our relationships is called “attachment style” .Our parents and caregivers play a crucial role i the style of “attachment'‘ we develop.. When as children those adults who are closest are unable to nurture us and be responsive to our needs then in order to survive we often “shut down” emotionally. An“avoidant attachment style” develops as a survival response to fear,, anxiety and feelings of rejection and abandonment.as there is a lack of a secure connection and trust.

HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE
Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
STOP BEING A DOORMAT

Doormats are exploited and dumped on. Doormats are used and often abused. Doormats do not have a voice. Before you can stop being a doormat it is essential that you actually begin to identify and see what the qualities of a doormat are. You may have been well-trained since early childhood to stuff your feelings and your voice and to be a “people pleaser”. and now you feeling depleted and believe the lie that you are powerless.but you are not!!

STOP BEING A DOORMAT

depression

EMOTIONAL COST OF TRAUMA BONDING

EMOTIONAL COST OF TRAUMA BONDING

If you are in a tumultuous, volatile and unstable relationship where you have made “peace with powerlessness” and your self-esteem is plummeting. yet, you are “stuck” and feel unable to move.: This is a counterfeit of the love you seek and is a “Trauma Bond”.. Those who have been traumatized during childhood frequently seek out what feels “familiar” in an attempt to heal even though “familiar” is what has been toxic. There is a clear imbalance of power in “Trauma Bonded” relationships as the glue holding the relationship together is fueled by early childhood wounds that are often unconscious. .You may feel that you cannot leave this relationship in the same way drug addicts struggle to begin to detox and recover from a drug that is “killing”. them. But hold on as there is hope for you to get set free!

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HEALING FROM PAINFUL BREAKUP

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HEALING FROM PAINFUL BREAKUP

A painful breakup truly is “Relational Trauma” .You feel overwhelmed with so many conflicting emotions and they may change minute to minute or day to day. Important to remember that healing is a process and you are “going through the fire and coming out gold”. It is essential as you grieve that you also increase your level of self-care and that includes slowing down so you can give yourself the attention you so desperately need as you go through this very painful season of your life. Important not to make any important decisions during this time or to start a “new” relationship in an attempt to not feel your pain. This would not be wise as you need time to rest and recover so that you can learn whatever is needed for you to learn about yourself and your “true” value and that your wounds of the past do not control your future…this will take time and patience so that those wounds can heal and not run your life

SIGNS YOU ARE NEGLECTING YOURSELF

SIGNS YOU ARE NEGLECTING YOURSELF

One of the most essential areas for you to not neglect yourself in: is giving attention to your emotional and mental health….in other words giving attention to your unhealed trauma wounds. You may not even be fully conscious that you have developed a pattern of “neglecting yourself” as you very likely are taking care of the “outside” and yet neglecting what is going on inside of you. We live from the inside out so when you neglect your inner world there are many consequences both inside and out..Our mind and our bodies work together and there are physical symptoms when emotions and memories get stuck in our bodies. The wonderful thing is that you can now choose to walk through an open door so you can heal and no longer avoid and move forward!